Ten research facts about choosing a marriage partner
(1) Marrying as a teenager is the highest known risk factor for divorce. People who marry in their teens are 2-3 times more likely to divorce than people who marry in their twenties or older. --- (3) The more similar people are in their values, backgrounds and life goals, the more likely they are to have a long-lasting marriage. Opposites may attract but they usually do not live together harmoniously. --- (6) Living together before marriage is not useful as a "trial marriage." --- (9) People who grow up in a family broken by divorce are much more likely to divorce when they do marry.
Contraceptive Pill messes up women's taste in men
The contraceptive Pill could be responsible for skewing women's hormones and drawing them to the "wrong" partner. A study suggests that taking the Pill can change a woman's taste in men — to those who are genetically less compatible. The Pill can alter the type of male scent that women find most attractive, which in turn affect the kind of men they choose as partners. The Pill is believed to mess up a build-in mechanism that bonds people with complementary genes. Such a couple, by passing on a wide-ranging set of genes, increase their chances of having a healthy child that is not vulnerable to infection.
Study: Women prefer men with stubble - For both affair and marriage
Stubble is the way to win a woman's heart, a study has revealed. Women are more attracted to men with stubbly chins than those with clean-shaven faces or full beards. Women rated men with stubble as tough, mature, aggressive, dominant and masculine - and as the best romantic partners, either for an affair or a long-term relationships. The explanation for the preference is not clear, but psychologists think that stubbly men may offer women the best worlds: not too strongly masculine, but mature and with the potential to grow a full beard.
Why do clever women fall for second-rate men?
Clever women tend to be perfectionists who are programmed to succeed: rather than walk away at the first sign of trouble with a man, they just try harder. And they often have less experience of men, because while the less clever girls were busy learning to master the field, the smart ones were revising. A 2004 study discovered that high status men preferred to marry secretaries rather than colleagues. Alpha females get a bad deal because men are biologically hard-wired to avoid successful partners. And a recent study says that 40% of female graduates born in 1970 are likely to enter their 40s single.
Hot woman + ugly man = happy marriage - Handsome men negative about marriage
Psychologists believe that happier marriages result from attractive women who marry uglier men. And women who marry handsome men had better be on the lookout: Men who saw themselves as better looking than their wives were more likely to be dissatisfied and have negative feelings about their marriage. "Men who were more attractive than their partner demonstrated a tendency to offer less emotional and practical support to their wives. Attractive men have available to them more short-term mating opportunities. This may make them less satisfied and less committed to the marital relationship."
Looking for a perfect match? Research says to follow your nose
What makes us fall in love? Mutual interests, shared life goals, or something more intangible? Researchers have discovered an olfactory nerve that they think is the route through which pheromones are processed. Nerve "O" wasn't previously detected because it is so tiny. What sexual cues do our scents give off? For one thing, we are more likely to be attracted to people whose scent is different from our own. Couples who have high levels of chemicals in common are more likely to face fertility issues, miscarriage and unfaithfulness.
10 guys women should run from
Mr. Jealousy: He'll get a little short with a waiter who flirts with you. However flattering his jealousies may seem at first, they'll get old and confining quick. --- The "Liberated" Man: I have a friend who said, "I seem to have a very liberating effect on whatever man I'm dating. We go on 3 dates, and the next thing I know he's moved in with me, he's quit his job, and his car is up on blocks in my yard." --- The Betrayed: I have dated an excessive number of men who have just been left by a woman for a woman. Usually these men are angry beyond all reason, so prepare to give up all your girlfriends.
Study: Hotties stick together - The beautiful marry the beautiful
In romance, we seek out partners who are just as "hot" or "not hot" as we are. A study backs up the idea that supermodels flock together while individuals without the perfect face and body also stick together. "Beautiful people marry beautiful people and less beautiful people marry less beautiful people," said professor Dan Ariely. But that doesn't mean less-attractive people are destined to feelings of settling for the mediocre. The study suggests people who lack good looks place more value in non-physical features, such as sense of humor, than in physical beauty.
Women fear of desertion or infidelity when man is too good
Success may be the kiss of death for men who hope to get hitched, psychologists say. When it comes to marriage material, women are wary of good-looking high-fliers, and are drawn to less successful men. To test the influence of a man's status on his marriage potential, a team created personal ads, accompanied by pictures of men ranked as either unattractive, moderately attractive or very attractive. The adverts included common phrases from lonely hearts columns. While better looking men fared better than uglier ones, the most successful and handsome men did not come out tops - women ranked them as low as the poorest men.
More couples look to pre-marriage relationship advice
Couples are increasingly seeking premarital relationship advice. They're taking courses or meeting with a counselor. They're learning how to avoid potential relationship pitfalls and determining whether they're on the same page about major issues. It's beneficial for couples to determine what their goals and desires are, and to learn what qualities are important to them. Most people learn about marriage from watching their parents' marriages or long-term relationships, modeling their behaviors, both good and bad.
Women prefer the average Joe as their Mr Right
When it comes to their Mr Right, it seems that most women would rather settle for the average Joe than a man with a large salary and a high-flying job. A new research found that women would rather be with Mr Medium, because they find attractive successful men "too good to be true", and believe that the relationship won't last. Another fear is that women are apprehensive that such men are more likely to stray, and will lack the time and dedication to help raise kids. Those who were good looking and had a medium status job scored more highly than attractive men with more high-flying jobs.
Opposites attract - Difference shows how likely a woman is faithful
It is an age old adage that opposites attract - now a study has shown women are pre-programmed to seek out men who are different to themselves. It is thought that seeking out a mate with different genes ensures children will have the broadest possible protection against disease. If the genes are very similar, a woman is more likely to be sexually dissatisfied with her partner, have a roving eye and even an affair - there is a key link between genes and fidelity. The research could even lead to the creation of a DNA test which would show how likely a woman is to remain faithful.
How women pick mates - do rounder faces make for better partners
Science might be able to explain our fascination with Brad Pitt's chiseled jaw and George Clooney's smoldering eyes. Women seem to judge mates by how masculine their features are, research shows. Men with square jaws and well-defined brow ridges are seen as good short-term partners, while those with more feminine traits such as a rounder face and fuller lips are perceived as better long-term mates. Those with more masculine features were likely to be risky and also more apt to fight, cheat on spouses and put less effort into parenting. Those with more feminine faces were seen as good parents and husbands, and emotionally supportive mates.
What we look for in love: Curvy beats skinny and smile matters most
A study surveyed 4,000 people to find what constitutes the "ultimate" attractive man and woman. Men are more attracted to "curvy" rather than skinny women, and prefer brunettes with "long, wavy hair". 78% of men see a "friendly smile" as the most attractive feature in a woman. Some 93% of women look for a man who can make her laugh and 73% want someone who will "automatically" pay for a meal. A man who owns his own home is five times more attractive than one who does not.
Highly educated women have the best chance at marriage
The centuries-old conventional wisdom sayd that you can't have it all, women have long been told. The price of female achievement is loneliness. But for women born since 1960, there has been a reversal of the historic pattern. As late as the 1980s women with PhDs were less likely to marry than women with a high school degree. But the "marital penalty" for highly educated women has declined steadily since then, and by 2000 it had disappeared. Today, women with a college degree or higher are more likely to marry than women with less education and lower earnings potential.
Modern women are just too choosy about men
Women have fought for equality for as long as I can remember. But it seems there is one area where men and women are not equal at all. A survey of modern relationships revealed that while most men are happy to settle down with a woman who is simply "good enough," the majority of women are still looking for Mr Right, a kind of fantasy dream man against whom every other suitor will be judged — and probably found wanting. The result is that most blokes come up short and are despatched to the scrapheap, while the woman continues her relentless — and usually unsuccessful — search for the perfect man.
Narcissists interested in pleasure more than lasting relationship
When it comes to love, narcissists are the worst people to fall for, for as a study has found, they are more interested in sexual pleasure than a relationship that will last. The study by Ilan Shrira showed that narcissists see sexuality more in terms of power, influence and as something daring, and not in terms of caring. The study found that they are more likely to philander and dump their partners for they`re looking for a "better deal". "Narcissists have a heightened sense of sexuality, but they tend to view sex very differently than other people do."
Career women make bad wives, says Forbes writer
Forbes magazine had to yank from its website an article that advised men not to marry professional women. Michael Noer cites studies that suggest career women are more likely to cheat, get divorced, less likely to have kids, or be unhappy if they do have children. Elizabeth Corcoran has issued an angry rebuttal with her own article "Don't marry a lazy man." She suggests it's men who have the problem. If you fear that your wife might meet someone more attractive and possibly cheat then Corcoran suggests husbands go to the gym, read a new book or try some new music.
Powerful women found to have trouble finding mates
There have been some studies indicating that if given a choice men prefer to marry women in subordinate jobs. In days gone by, we used to call this "marrying down." Dr. Stephanie Brown said there's support for the idea that powerful women are at a disadvantage in the marriage market, as men may prefer less-accomplished women. It's been found that intelligent, highly educated women tend to be more sexually free, and though males may enjoy this, infidelity is scary and a threat to males because of paternal uncertainty in marriage or any long-term relationship.
Women Get Paternal Clues In Men's Faces
Women looking for a long-term relationship like men who like children - and they can tell which guys might be interested in becoming fathers just by looking at their faces. This study suggests that women are picking up on facial cues that are perhaps related to paternal qualities. The more they perceived the men as liking kids, the more likely they could see having a longer-term relationship. Experts said evolution has apparently programmed women to recognize men who might be interested in propagating the species by raising a family.
Brain remembers familiar faces when choosing potential mate
Scientists have discovered that the human brain favours familiar-looking faces when choosing a potential partner. They also found that the human brain holds separate images of both male and female faces and reacts to them differently depending on how familiar it is with their facial features. "The next step in the research is to find out why the brain makes a link between familiarity and attractiveness. It maybe that visual experience of particular facial features suggests that a person is 'safe' or more 'approachable', both of which are desirable traits."
Why smart women make dumb mistakes about the men
The vast majority of the letters are from women. A few are not. Most letters are from women who are depressed. It is abundantly clear that the reason they are depressed is that they are in miserable relationships. Most have fallen into relationships with men who are egregiously unsuitable partners. Not men who changed and became difficult, but men whose behavior from the beginning was a blinking neon sign warning Bad Mate Material. These men had had affairs, sometimes with other men; they were drinkers or drug users; they had personality problems; they lied about themselves...
Bad girls are fun in parties and sex, but boring in family life
Millions of girls that live on planet Earth can generally be divided into two major categories: good girls and bad girls. Let us make a list of virtues, bad girls first: Their ability to be great fun is on top of the list. They laugh a lot, they are fond of flirting. Bad girls have an optimistic attitude to life. They are full of energy. Life is a never-ending show for them. However, bad girls are really bad when it comes to certain things. First, they can not be trusted. You can not build a solid relationship with this kind of girl. So you had better court the good ones...
4 Questions You Must Ask Before You Say "I Do"
How do you know when you've met the right one? Almost everyone asks this question at some point in their lives. The criteria for choosing a spouse can be boiled down to just four characteristics. If you can find somebody with all four then it's highly likely that you've found your life partner. (1) What is This Person's Core Values? (2) Does This Person Treat Others Well? (3) Do We Communicate Well With Each Other? (4) Are We Physically Attracted to Each Other?
A Pattern of Destruction - picking the wrong men
I have a close male friend who is a womanizer. He has slept with the majority of women I know and is notorious for breaking people's hearts and making women fall in love with him. -- Why do you keep putting yourself in situations where you know you are going to be hurt, either by a frankly inappropriate mate candidate or by a male you know is not likely to find you sexually desirable?
Would You Be My... Roommate?
What couples should discuss before shacking up. Frank discussions can dispel fantastic expectations and make the transition more organic.
Love Isn't Blind
Of all the decisions you make in your life, few are as important as who you choose to marry or live with. Make a bad choice and you can spend your days and nights mired in unhappiness or consumed by anxiety or depression, conditions that not only rob your mental health but undermine your physical health as well.
(Psychology Today )