Husband forced to pay out 55,000 to the mistress he dumped after 20 years
A husband has been ordered to pay 55,000 pounds to his mistress after ending their 20-year affair. The man was sued for compensation by her over the affection she had given him and the shock of the split. "He always told me he would look after me, then he left me," the woman said, adding that she deserved the money: "I gave him the best years of my life and I believe others should follow my lead." The man, from Melbourne in Australia, was forced to make the pay-out after a change in the law in the state of Victoria. The Family Law Act gives those in common-law relationships (like long-term lovers and same-sex marriages) the same rights as those in traditional marriages.
The other woman's guide to being a serial mistress - Having An Affair
Sarah Symonds doesn't have a lot to recommend from her time as a mistress. Much of it was spent alone in a lavish Westminster flat, "my ivory palace", paid for by another of her millionaire lovers. She may have been whisked around the world, wined and dined in romantic places and showered with gifts, but at 37 she is single and childless, and has given up on finding a husband. Symonds has turned her experiences into a book: Having An Affair? A Handbook For The Other Woman - which is causing a furore. Symonds insists that far from advocating affairs with married men, she wants to encourage mistresses to get out of the relationships they have become entangled.
Summer Infidelity - Is Your Boyfriend Having a Summer Affair?
The cheating season is here. According to infidelity expert Ruth Houston, summer flings, infidelity and seasonal affairs flourish during this time of the year. There are three types of men who usually have summer affairs. (1) The recreational cheater who considers infidelity a summer sport. (2) The seasonal cheater who has a summer fling while his girlfriend is on vacation. (3) The opportunistic cheater who only cheats when an opportunity presents itself for him to do so without getting caught. "If you see telltale signs of summer infidelity in the planning stage, or already taking place, don`t ignore it thinking it will go away..."
Affair is not why you're leaving marriage: it tells that you already have
Till death do us part? Nah. It's till Sexual fidelity do us part. But is it all bad when an extramarital affair happens? An affair is a huge life-changing event, nothing short of transformational - if, that is, you don't hide in deep guilt and denial from why you did it. Once you have endured divorce and the examination of why you stayed for as long as you did, what the pathology of the relationship was and what you need to repair in yourself, you see the people with a sort of emotional X-ray vision. You see what lies beneath. Most affairs illuminate a truth - one you may not have been ready to see.
After Infidelity: The Road Back
An emotional affair can deliver a body blow to a marriage, but it rarely results in divorce. Instead, couples can navigate recovery to make their union stronger than before. The first step in recovery is honesty. "It is secrecy that enables affairs to thrive. The cover-up, for most people, is worse than the actual infidelity. So it's only by putting everything on the table that you'll be able to move on. The involved partner must be honest about all aspects of the affair."
I can't get over my husband's affair
I have discovered that my husband had a five-year affair with a work colleague, which has now ended. He seemed to be able to compartmentalise his life in a way I can't begin to understand: he went straight from our bed to hers and, once, he came home to celebrate our wedding anniversary directly from her place. After much soul-searching by both of us, our marriage seems to be reborn. My husband has retired and has become more loving and caring of me. He has successfully blotted out what happened and is genuinely surprised and hurt that I am not able to do the same.
Emotional Infidelity: A Love Affair or Just Friends?
Here are a few observations of the "just friends" emotional affair: (1) This person often struggles knowing where to draw the line. S/he often throws him/herself into something 100%. Other aspects of his/her life may suffer or be ignored. There often is a lack of personal balance between family, work, self care. -- The lover or "falling in love" emotional affair has a different twist.
Advice: The Things My Wife and Her Lover Did
Advice on rebuilding trust with a cheating wife and how to find a loving (non-abusive) husband. My wife cheated on me for nearly a year before I caught them. We got past it and have, over many years now, strengthened our marriage. However, while we were working things out my wife divulged that she had done certain sexual things with him while they were lovers. Two of those things she had steadfastly refused to do with me. This is one area of the affair for which she could not provide any logical explanation.