Insecurity & Fear of Rejection in relationship

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In a secure relationship, it's OK to check out other people
You're walking down the street hand in hand with your partner, when a treat walks past. What does your sweetie do? Does he keep his eyes on the sidewalk? Or does he dare look? According to a survey it depends: 53% of men will look; 28% said they will only look in extraordinary circumstances or if they have cover; 19% won't look. Most people agree there's nothing wrong with looking. But if you feel that line has been crossed, what do you do? Simply speak up says Susan Newman: "If it upsets you, you should tell him. Politely say, 'Don't do it, it upsets me.'" But before that you should check yourself: Has he crossed the line, or are you being overly jealous?
by baltimoresun | 2007-12-08 | Insecurity & Fear of Rejection in relationship

How to Know if a Woman Loves You: Signs that She Loves You
Love can be a game of hide and seek. If everything is as simple as feeling something and saying it out loud, then the world will be better off. Often this kind of honesty cannot be done in reality as people live in fear, insecurity and pride. We cannot tell or show how we feel because we fear rejection. We will only show our feelings when we are sure that our feelings will be reciprocated. When we are not sure, we will just keep it a secret rather than run the risk of getting hurt. (1) If a woman loves you she has the willingness to sacrifice. (2) Some women may not say much but they worry for the safety of the people they love.
by americanchronicle | 2007-06-04 | Insecurity & Fear of Rejection in relationship

Women fear of desertion or infidelity when man is too good
Success may be the kiss of death for men who hope to get hitched, psychologists say. When it comes to marriage material, women are wary of good-looking high-fliers, and are drawn to less successful men. To test the influence of a man's status on his marriage potential, a team created personal ads, accompanied by pictures of men ranked as either unattractive, moderately attractive or very attractive. The adverts included common phrases from lonely hearts columns. While better looking men fared better than uglier ones, the most successful and handsome men did not come out tops - women ranked them as low as the poorest men.
by guardian | 2007-04-07 | Insecurity & Fear of Rejection in relationship

Insanely jealous: The One turns fearless females into insecure wets
I've become insanely jealous of my partner, despite the fact that he has never given me any reason to be. I've become anxious when he talks to other women. I'm always checking up on him if he sits next to an attractive woman or laughs at female friends' jokes. Things overheated when I went through his phone while he was in the shower and found texts from one female friend. They were innocent but I just flipped and screamed at him. -- Checking your partner's phone for messages is never a signal of a healthy state of mind. I have witnessed fearless females turn into insecure wets when they find themselves hitched up to the man they've decided is The One.
by guardian | 2007-01-10 | Trouble Arising - Jealously and Low self-esteem

Why We Lie - Because our self-esteem is threatened
We all lie, all the time. It causes problems, to say the least. So why do we do it? "It's tied in with self-esteem," says psychologist Robert Feldman. "We find that as soon as people feel that their self-esteem is threatened, they immediately begin to lie at higher levels." Not all lies are harmful. In fact, sometimes lying is the best approach for protecting privacy and ourselves and others from malice. Some deception, such as boasting and lies in the name of tact and politeness, can be classified as less than serious. But bald-faced lies, are harmful, as they corrode trust and intimacy-the glue of society.
by livescience | 2006-05-30 | Insecurity & Fear of Rejection in relationship

Does the Fear of Rejection Control Your Life?
Jay wanted to get married and have children, yet the relationship seemed to elude him. When I first met Jay, he was an attractive and successful businessman. It wasn't that women weren't attracted to him. He had no trouble having first dates. But it never went anywhere. Jay was baffled. -- The few times in sessions when you have forgotten to watch what you are saying, you are incredible: funny and interesting. If you were to really get to appreciate who you really are, you would stop worrying about rejection! You would know that you are just fine, and that if someone rejects you, it's more about them than it is about you.
by ezinearticles | 2005-11-29 | Insecurity & Fear of Rejection in relationship

8 Ways To Keep The Upper Hand With Women
They can catapult us into instant, spontaneous lust, and, at the same time, into a knee-buckling fear of rejection. The very thought of a ripe, firm body can tyrannize our thoughts, leaving us sweaty and panting and out of control. As men, we need to learn to turn the tables on this kind of female domination; to regain the upper hand in our interaction with the opposite sex. So how do we do this? (1) Wussy not - Desperation stinks, and women can sniff out insecurity. So even if you're Brad Pitt's better-looking brother, you still need to exude tons of confidence if you want to attract the ladies.
by AskMen | 2005-11-28 | Relationship advice For Men

8 Types Of Guys Women Avoid - Nro 1: The Needy Guy
Just as women are attracted to certain archetypal men, there are other types of men that women go out of their way to avoid. And this is especially true during the early stages of a relationship, when a woman is trying to gauge a man's personality. (1) The Needy Guy - He is overly emotional and shares all his feelings with her right away. The Needy Guy also doubts himself and needs constant reassurance about his relationship, work and friendships.
by askmen | 2005-11-25 | Relationship dating

Always feeling insecurity over your love relationship?
I should believe that you are having such thoughts because you really cherish this relationship? But perhaps cherishing it just a bit too much? How would you feel if things were the other way round? Would you like it if your partner were to doubt your love for them instead? Trust between partners is one of the key criteria to a happy and fulfilling relationship. Remember, love is always a two-way communication. It takes two, a happy you and a happy him or her to complete the equation.
by ArticleAlley | 2005-11-16 | Insecurity & Fear of Rejection in relationship

Are You Relationship Codependent?
In a relationship between two emotionally healthy adults, the roles of giving and receiving help are balanced. Both people offer help and receive help from each other in approximately equal amounts. However, there are some people who always take on the role of being the helper, no matter what relationship they are in.
by ArticleAlley | 2005-11-01 | Insecurity & Fear of Rejection in relationship

Am I Too Intense About Love - obsessed with boyfriend
I'm afraid I'm getting obsessed with my boyfriend. I have the urge to talk to him 24/7. What in the world is wrong with me? --- It doesn't mean anything is wrong with you. Because love can make us feel totally vulnerable, and completely focused on another person. This can be exciting - it's certainly more enjoyable than studying for chemistry or helping your parents clean the garage - but it can also send us off balance and make us act nutty. The reality is, you don't ever completely know where you stand and there isn't much you can do about it.
by YM | 2005-10-27 | Insecurity & Fear of Rejection in relationship

Slaves to love - Selfish lover or hopeless abstainer
Selfish lover or hopeless abstainer? Our sex lives mirror the treatment we receive as a child. Are you a Clinger or an Avoidant. A robust series of studies done in the past decade prove that a key factor is how secure we are in our pattern of relationships. About half of adults have insecure ones and this strongly predicts both sexual behaviour and motives.
by Observer | 2005-10-23 | Insecurity & Fear of Rejection in relationship

Managing and ending relationships - SMS text messages
Research shows young romantics are increasingly using SMS text messages to manage, and even end, their relationships. Couples, fearing rejection, wanted to avoid direct contact when their relationships were strained. People used text messages to show their negative feelings rather than talking face-to-face. This might be because text messages were less confrontational and more distant. The clinical psychologist said she was surprised to find 15 percent of participants had dumped a partner via text messages.
by Independent Online | 2005-10-15 | Breaking Up & Closure

Insecurity - Low self-esteemed sabotage their own relationships
Most people seek a soul mate to love them unconditionally. But those who need such acceptance most -- the terminally insecure -- often sabotage their own chances at bliss. When we're feeling low, we often regain confidence through a mate's love and support. Unfortunately people who suffer from low self-esteem assume that their loved ones notice their glaring faults more than their redeeming virtues.
by psychologytoday | 2005-05-12 | Insecurity & Fear of Rejection in relationship

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