How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It
Even with the best of intentions, talking about your relationship doesn`t bring you closer together, and it will drive you apart, say Patricia Love and Steven Stosny. There's a biological difference at work underneath most couples` fights, and that's why improving a marriage can`t happen through words. Men has a raised sensitivity to feeling inadequacy. Male impulse is to hide, so he can`t tell her about it. So man disguises it with annoyance. Woman does not understand that each time she tries to make improvements, the message man hears is that he is not meeting her expectations, which sends him into the pain of his own inadequacy.
Top Five Communication Tips for Singles
Use The 3 Magic Words of Listening- "Is there more?" For most people, listening is far more challenging than talking. If you do nothing else, being attentive to what your partner is saying and using these 3 magic words will make you a star listener. We bring many, many needs into any relationship and will experience an issue when a need is not met. It is impossible for all needs to be met all the time in any relationship, so you will have many opportunities to experience and express issues. Simply making a request and focusing on what you want to happen, instead of what is wrong or not happening.
Say No Without the Guilt
One of the shortest and simplest words causes even the most confident people stress. Most people say "no" because they would rather sacrifice their time and energy, than cause conflict or experience feelings of guilt. It takes practice to step outside your comfort zone, but the sacrifice will be well worth it. (1) Get your priorities straight. What's most important to you? (2) 2. Stop focusing on being "nice". If you say "yes" just to be nice, chances are you'll follow through half-heartedly.
Communication skills are definitely the most important skills required in anyone`s relationship whether it be intimate or family relationships, friend relationships or career relationships. So what we need is to find out what these skills consist of and start up with communication skills training. (2) Communicating with Different People - People are different and our relationships are also different. You must learn to communicate effectively with supervisors, your loved one, your children and your friends etc.
Communicating: Body language favored over facial expression
When you first meet someone, what do you find more revealing: their body language or facial expression? What about when that person's body language doesn't match the look on his or her face? -- "Observers judging a facial expression are strongly influenced by emotional body language. When face and body convey conflicting emotional information, judgment of facial expression is hampered and becomes biased toward the emotion expressed by the body."