Men, Women Don't Speak the Same Language - Survey
The survey of 300 men and 300 women in committed relationships reveals that women and men still don't "speak" the same language when it comes to intimacy, and 1/3 find it difficult to talk about intimacy at all. Men and women aren't always the best communicators when it comes to intimacy, but there are ways to make relationships stronger. "Mastering the language of intimacy requires that you really be in tune with your partner's needs, but you also should understand your own needs, and be able to communicate them as well."
The basic ingredients for a healthy intimate relationship
Human beings crave intimacy, need to love and be loved. Yet people have much trouble doing so. (1) Choose a partner wisely and well. We are attracted to people for all kinds of reasons. They remind us of someone from our past. They shower us with gifts and make us feel important. Evaluate a potential partner as you would a friend; look at their character, personality, values, their generosity of spirit, the relationship between their words and actions, their relationships with others.
Advice for couples who are sexually out of sync
Over the last years my wife has gradually lost interest in sex. The last time she said, `This is mainly for you.` Boy, that made me feel terrible! What do I do? I have asked her and she only gets hostile, and an argument results. -- Sometimes I wish I could pair up all the women who ask about hubby`s low desire with all the men who complain about wife`s lost libido, but this would not solve the problem. Monogamous married people can expect to have about 3,000 sexual experiences with each other. Over time, you start to repeat yourself. In a list of things that stimulate desire, psychological intimacy is at No. 1.
Men, Women, and Sex - women need emotional intimacy
I have frequently worked with the sexual problems that often occur in committed relationships. The most common complaint from men regarding sex is frequency, and the most common complaint from woman is lack of emotional intimacy. The very real issue here is that men are biologically motivated and women are mostly emotionally motivated. When women can accept that men`s biology is very present for them, they can start supporting their men in creating more emotional intimacy, romance, and personal power. When women criticize men, they help to create some of the insecurity that is such a turn off to many women.
Relationship Advice - How to Improve Intimacy
Intimacy is one of the most important things in a relationship. Understanding how to meet your partner's needs is the first step in building a strong, long-lasting relationship that both of you will be happy with. When a woman thinks of intimacy, she generally wants to begin with emotional intimacy. Emotional intimacy depends primarily on trust and frequently involves individuals discussing their feelings and emotions with each other in order to gain understanding and offer mutual support. For a man, intimacy mostly means physical intimacy. That is how they feel close to their partner.