Interviews reveal why women really have sex
Women have sex to relieve boredom, for presents, keep the peace - and to ensure their husband puts the rubbish out. A new book, Why Women Have Sex, lists 200 reasons after discounting the physical attraction. Authors Cindy Meston and David Buss discovered - after 1000 interviews - that romance and passion rank low, with 84% of women having sex to ensure a "quiet life" or as a bargaining tool for household chores. Dr Michelle Mars said romance is low on the list because passion can fade out during a long-term relationship: "You might have sex to show your partner you still love and care about them... but maybe you don't fancy them in the same way any more. The attraction can wear off." [Buy from Amazon: US, UK, CA, DE, FR]
Ten research facts about choosing a marriage partner
(1) Marrying as a teenager is the highest known risk factor for divorce. People who marry in their teens are 2-3 times more likely to divorce than people who marry in their twenties or older. --- (3) The more similar people are in their values, backgrounds and life goals, the more likely they are to have a long-lasting marriage. Opposites may attract but they usually do not live together harmoniously. --- (6) Living together before marriage is not useful as a "trial marriage." --- (9) People who grow up in a family broken by divorce are much more likely to divorce when they do marry.
How to have a successful office romance - 40% have dated colleague
40% of workers have dated a colleague at some point in their careers, and 30% say they married the person they dated at work. "The office has turned into the village of the 21st century. Where else do you spend 12 hours a day," says author Helaine Olen. 72% of workers who have office relationships are public with them, compared with just 46% five years ago. Here are some basic guidelines for an office romance: (1) Don't date an underling. (2) Agree on terms. (3) Know you may lose your job. Worst case scenari is a boss-subordinate affair that goes sour and results in a sexual harassment suit.
23 tips to keep romance alive
(4) Outlaw Grunge-Wear: When having a Blockbuster night think twice before you change into lounging-on-the-couch clothes ... you know, oversize T-shirt, wear-and-tear sweater. That isn't exactly a recipe for a night of making googly eyes. Instead, wear something a little more comfortable but a lot more attractive like tank top, especially when worn without a bra. --- (7) Flash Him: When no one's looking, give your guy a sneak peek in public. Granted, it's not violins-in-the-background romantic, but it's guaranteed to send his heart - and pulse - soaring.
15 relationship mistakes women often do
(5) Putting so much energy into the idea of a fairy-tale romance that we're not satisfied with anything less. --- (7) Thinking that a perfect relationship is easy: Relationships require work and compromise. A perfect relationship means doing those things well. --- (9) Thinking that getting a boyfriend or husband will solve all our problems: In reality no one can fix our lives for us. --- (10) Using the silence: Partners can't read our minds, he won't know what's wrong unless we tell him. (11) Not asking for what we want in bed: It can be as little as a rewarding moan when he does something good, or as much as a frank discussion about fantasies.
How to get over a breakup? 10 ways to get over a past relationship
(1) Take him/her out of your cell phone contact list. Each time you pass his/her name when browsing contacts you may experience those negative feelings. Why put yourself through such agony? (3) Make a list of all his/her bad qualities, and think about the things you did not share. (7) Start hanging around new people - especially if your social group is connected with your ex.
Top 10 reasons women don't want sex
(4) Lack of sleep. For most women, sleep comes before sex once the relationship has been established. This is a common problem in modern sleep-deprived society. (8) High levels of SHBG. A woman with high levels of sex hormone binding globulin (SHBG), may have low sexual interest because it combines with free testosterone - making it unavailable - and that reduces libido. (9) Fear of intimacy. The inability to handle the level of intimacy that sex requires is a common reason for a drop-off in sexual desire. (10) Body image: Women who view themselves as unattractive.
Opposites attract at first but often don't work out in the long run
Do opposites really attract? A new study finds that when it comes to personality, people seek partners with their same qualities - but claim to want someone who is different. The study, in the journal Evolutionary Psychology, asked 760 persons of their personality traits and traits they would want in long-term partner. The answers showed a preference for someone with the same sort of personality, but 85.7% of participants claim to want someone who has opposite traits. Although many feel attracted to opposites, these attractions between opposites usually do not grow into solid relationships and, when they do, these relationships often end prematurely.
30% of UK divorce cases uses evidence of adultery collected by private detectives
As Helen Gunn brought her car to a halt, she had to fight to control her nerves. She had never seen the house, but there was no misidentifying her husband Dan's Mercedes. It was a cold afternoon, and the address had been supplied by a private detective Helen had hired to prove her husband was cheating on her after 15 months of marriage. Knowing Dan and his mistress were inside, Helen took a deep breath, and walked to the front door... This was far from how Helen, an occupational therapist, had imagined things would turn out for them. "For 7 months while I'd been pregnant I'd suspected he was having an affair, but ... he'd denied it and insisted I was paranoid."
My boyfriend cares about me, but won`t touch me in public
(Question) Is it normal for my boyfriend of more than a year to avoid public displays of affection? He rarely kisses me or holds my hand when we're in public. He pulls away if I reach for him in public. --- (Answer) Given that the two of you work together, the situation is not simple. There are many workplaces where office romance is disapproved (fear of accusations of sexual harassment). And, if you split up, you would be subject to all sorts of gossip. Or your boyfriend might have some social anxiety, so that he dislikes the disclosure of any personal information (like his romantic life).