7 things you need to know about sexuality
(1) Initiating sex isn't the only way to express desire. Although 80% of couples report that the husband wants sex more often than his wife, this may be a skewed number because of the way we define sexual desire. Most women experience a receptive type of desire: they will respond positively to sexual advances, they just don't initiate them because that's not the way they were designed. (4) There's a fine line between turn-ons and turn-offs: "brakes and accelerators." One spouse thinks he's accelerating, while his mate is feeling the brakes. For example "risky" sexual behaviors: making love in the back seat of a car.
The most popular male fantasy
The concept of two women making love with their bodies pressed against each other has been proven by surveys to be the most popular male fantasy. There are 3 groups based solely on age. The first group is aged 20-35, and the women in this category are far more inclined to be with another woman for the sheer pleasure and experience of it. Women older than 35 have often been married and divorced. They may have become disillusioned with men, and are now seeking the emotional connection that has been absent from their relationships with men. The last group is the young female population, aged 14-19, impressionable and keen to impress.
Sex researcher focuses on new hot spots
Sexuality researcher Beverly Whipple made her name popularizing the G spot, but she has a different message these days: Move on. "There's so many ways that women can have sexual pleasure. We can't deny the experiences of women. We have to validate them." Lesson number one: The biggest sexual organ is the brain. Her most recent book, The Science of Orgasm, explores how the brain produces orgasms and the complex biological processes involved. Whipple has tried to help women who feel confused or weird because their own bedroom experiences don't match conventional wisdom or Hollywood portrayals.
Making grocery list while making love
No animal has to commit to a relationship to lure the female of the species into the nest. We humans are much more complicated. Women need to be in the mood, which many men don't seem to understand. "I think that most men, and I have to underline the word 'most,' just don't get it," said Jenny McCarthy. "It's amazing to me how much brain work it takes for a girl to have an orgasm. Guys just need to look at a nipple, and they lose it. God, I wish it was that easy for us!" Women are also more easily distracted than men, even in bed. McCarthy admitted that she often made grocery lists while making love.
Women who travel for sun, sea and sex
The men are young, gorgeous and up for it. No wonder Western women see a Third World as the gateway to casual sex - sometimes in exchange for cash. But as a new film highlights female sex tourism, Liz Hoggard asks who really pays the price. But this holiday romance is not all it seems. The woman is white, in her late 50s; the man, black, 18 - and paid for his attentions. The new controversial French film, Heading South, makes us confront uncomfortable truths about sexuality in a globalised world, and the legacy of colonialism.
Erotic Images Elicit Strong Response From Brain
A new study suggests the brain is quickly turned on and "tuned in" when a person views erotic images. Researchers measured brainwave activity of 264 women as they viewed a series of 55 color slides that contained various scenes from water skiers to snarling dogs to partially-clad couples in sensual poses. When volunteers viewed erotic pictures, their brains produced electrical responses that were stronger than those elicited by other material that was viewed, no matter how pleasant or disturbing the other material may have been.
Communication is key to satisfying sex but rarely done
There you are, standing naked before another person with whom you have decided to be intimate, and you cannot work up the courage to say, "You know what I would really like?" This person knows that you slurp pasta, can clearly see you have not been going to the gym as often as you brag about going, and assuming some genetic malady isnĄ¯t interfering with depth perception, can accurately see the size of your equipment. Now you get shy? Only 40% said they have asked their lovers for something in bed in the past month. Either 60% of you have informed your partners just how you like it and those lovers do it exactly right, or a lot of you just arenĄ¯t saying anything.
Being a sex addict is in your genes
Some people simply can't help being 'sex addicts', according to a new discovery by scientists. They have found that people with a certain genetic make-up have a much stronger sex drive than others. It could also help provide reassurance for those who are perfectly happy with their relatively low libido, but are made to think they are abnormal because magazines, television and films suggest most people having sex all the time. "Some people really do think more about sex and place a greater importance on it than others."
Why we have sex: It's cleansing
Scientists have long wondered why organisms bother with sexual reproduction. It makes a whole lot more sense to just have a bunch of females that can clone themselves, which is how asexual reproduction works. Turns out sex might have evolved as a way to concentrate lots of harmful mutations into individual organisms so they could be easily weeded out by natural selection, a new computer model suggests.
Sex with a partner is 400% better
Lovers know only too well that men usually need a "recovery period" after orgasm, and that sexual intercourse with orgasm is more satisfying than an orgasm from masturbation alone. Scientists think the two phenomena might be linked. Following orgasm, the hormone prolactin is released into the bloodstream. The hormone makes us feel satiated by countering the effect of dopamine (released during sexual arousal). Stuart Brody measured blood prolactin levels in volunteers: After orgasm from sexual intercourse, the increase in blood prolactin levels is 400% higher in both sexes compared with after orgasm from masturbation.
Could something as simple as caffeine be the female version of Viagra?
Maybe, according to study `Coffee, Tea and Me: Moderate doses of caffeine affect sexual behavior in female rats,`, which is the first to examine the interaction between caffeine and sex in females. Administration of caffeine shortened the amount of time it took the females to return to the males, suggesting that the females were more motivated to be with the male rats. While it is tempting to speculate that caffeine exposure could also affect sexual motivation in other female mammals such as humans, Guarraci cautioned that may not be the case since most humans consume moderate doses of caffeine on a daily basis.
Agony and ecstasy: that really hits the spot
I have discovered a soft area behind the pubic bone that just needs to be touched for great pleasure. Is this an external extension of the clitoris? -- It is good news that you have discovered one of your erotic zones. For some, the bad news will be that the distribution of these zones was laid down long ago when we human beings were unashamedly animal. The search for the G-spot has been pursued with all the enthusiasm of gold-seekers in the Yukon and, as with the prospectors, not all are successful.
Losing virginity stories
When I asked for your losing-virginity stories a couple weeks back, I had no idea your response would be so overwhelming! So I've decided this week and next to run a few of the stories (published anonymously and edited for length and clarity) I think offer insight into the kinds of foundations upon which we all build our sex lives in this culture.
A-Z of relationships: o is for orgasm
There are two things that can`t be described and one of them is a sunset. So runs the old school wisdom about orgasm, yet today it is difficult to escape from detailed descriptions, images and instructions about sexual climax. TV programmes such as Sex Inspectors give meticulous and graphic advice to contestants about orgasm, and few sex scenes in the movies are complete without one.
100th anniversary of female orgasm: from Freud to Lloyd
Sex research has shown that about 95 percent of men nearly always have orgasm from intercourse while only about 25 percent to 30 percent of women do. Another 30-some-odd percent of women never have orgasm from intercourse, and a middle 30 percent to 40 percent report having them sometimes. Lest we get too caught up in this year's 100th anniversary of Einstein's special relativity theory, it should be noted that 2005 also marks the centennial of Sigmund Freud's theory of vaginal orgasm.
When a lover issues sexual ultimatums
How to handle emotional blackmail in the bedroom: What should you do when a partner is using emotional blackmail to get sex? Are there good alternatives to Viagra-type drugs? And what's the best way to disclose a sexually transmitted disease?
Sex: What Problem?
When your partner has no interest in sex despite your best efforts, it's easy to become perplexed. And without guidance, partners may characterize the problem in ways that can destroy the relationship.
The Women Are Coming - Satisfying Her
So how can you possibly tell whether or not she has really reached orgasm? After all, since all women react differently to climaxing (just as men do), how can you tell whether she saw the heavens or was simply attempting to feed your ego? Well, there are plenty of ways in which to determine that your sexual partner has reached the acme of sexual pleasure. Whereas some women make it quite obvious that they're having an orgasm, other women are quiet as a mouse and expect you to know that they're satisfied.